"Life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change"
It is very possible that if you are reading this you have some aspect of your life you would like to change, even if you are not aware of it at the moment. Lets face it we live in a fast paced world where the desire for instant gratification drives many of our choices. While instant gratification brings things quickly and in most cases easily, it is not necessarily the wisest choice in the long term. In my own experience I have found things that come quick and easy tend to depart quick and painfully. I have also learned that things of true value to us take time and some effort.
Let's pretend as you read this that you are one of those people who have an aspect of your life you would like to change. Remember we are just pretending because we all know every aspect of our individual lives are perfect just the way they are, so back to pretending. Once we have decided that we have a flaw in our life, now we have to fix it, "now please". So we lay out our plan, set our timeline, gather the resources and set to fixing the issue, whatever it may be. Seems simple enough, but, if it is so simple why is it that so many people are "not" achieving their goals? It isn't the approach, that is sound, but it does include one thing that may be causing us to fail, time and again. Here it is: Our expectations. Yes, our expectations, lets go back to the world we live in, fast paced and filled with instant gratification. We tend to approach everything in the same fashion, and when the approach does not meet our expectations of fast and easy we give up on it. We then find a new approach and start over never realizing any real benefit from our original approach.
So how do we get out of this vicious cycle of start, fail and start again, when it comes to our wellness, we change our expectations. Lasting changes in our bodies and wellness life style, rarely happen quickly and will usually require some effort, but then again, it is of true value to us if we want to live a full vibrant life. There are no quick fixes here and your approach has to be balanced with the understanding that there are no magic pills or quick fixes that will create the changes for the long term. Now that I have come to grips with the idea, I am not going to change the habits I have held over the last 20 years that have created what ever imbalance I am looking to correct, in the next month. I can start to make the small adjustments that result in big permanent changes down the road, so to speak.
This bring us to our time line. Ever go to the gym on the third of January, it is packed with people sweating, grunting and running. You have to wait in line like you are at an amusement park to get close to the machines you want to use, but if you wait a couple months the machines will once again be easy to access. Why is this? Did all these new people suddenly get so busy they simply have no time to work out anymore, maybe for some that is the case. Truth of the matter is that long term goals are hard to keep with current expectations, instead of setting your goal for a week, month or year, which is hard to maintain given our busy lives. Starting out looking at changing things for a long time from the beginning may seem impossible after you actually start doing it, and the first time you fail, you prove to yourself it "is" impossible and stop trying. Just start with today, anyone can do something or give up something for a day, that is easy compared to a week, month or year. "Just for today: I will _________", if you accomplish it that day, that is awesome, if you don't, that's ok too. Because tomorrow is just today waiting to happen and as you achieve your daily goal the begin to stack up as yesterdays successes which will eventually lead to lasting healthy changes.